While I love a good party and can admire beautiful images from bridal showers on event blogs like everyone else, I had a few reasons for not wanting those events for myself.
First of all, I didn't want being a bridesmaid to be full of obligatory duties. While I have loved being a bridesmaid in the past, there were times when the roll seemed to come with a fairly lengthy list of chores.
My bridesmaids are busy women with active lives. All are married, one is a stay at home mom, and the other two have jobs that require a bit of travel. My Maid of Honor is a colleague, so I'm well aware of the demands on her schedule. I put myself in my bridesmaids' shoes and decided that planning a shower would be a bit of a burden and be logistically difficult since only one lives in Charlottesville. Once our wedding is over, I want my bridesmaids to look back on their role fondly, not be relieved that they're done with it.
The other reason that I didn't want showers or a bachelorette party is that I don't feel like I have time for them. I think back to how life seemed for friends who got married years ago and I'm a little jealous. They seemed to be pretty focused on their weddings. While I'm obviously paying a lot of attention to our wedding as a Weddingbee blogger, the wedding is not my top priority right now. At this time of year, I work pretty crazy hours and I fit wedding projects in on weekends, after I've gotten some work done. I can't imagine pushing my work off to attend a shower during my busy season.
Is anyone else juggling a demanding job and wedding planning? How are you prioritizing? Did you forgo a shower or bachelorette party because of your schedule?