Who notices the details?

I've tried to keep the wedding talk to Wednesdays, but since the design of this event is at the forefront of my mind these days, I hope you all will be okay with a few more wedding posts creeping into the blog.  We have plenty of projects and decisions in the works and I'd love your opinions on those just as much as I love your opinions on paint colors.

Early on in our planning process, I told myself that some of the little details about our wedding would only be noticed by me and a handful of others.  I was convinced that most people just see "wedding" at a wedding and don't really notice the details.  I was okay with that.  It also gave me freedom to ignore a couple things that didn't interest me (event lighting...no matter how subtle, it all looks Jersey to me).  Marc actually changed my mind a few weeks ago.

Last month, we went to the wedding of a colleague at a local vineyard.  It was a beautiful day.  It was my first time attending a wedding since starting to plan my own, which is an interesting experience.  On our way home that night, Marc commented on the napkins.  He thought it was nice that the bride brought in napkins in one of the wedding colors.  We had been planning on using the [very nice] standard linens at our venue, but Marc suggested we look into getting napkins in one of our colors.  That seemed simple enough.

This is where things get kind of interesting.  Remember the dresses I picked out for my bridesmaids?  Well, J. Crew discontinued the color and fabric combination I wanted before I could track down a dress for one of my bridesmaids.  I was prowling multiple websites for her dress and I found a listing on Craigslist for napkins.  The seller had bought napkins specifically to match her bridesmaids' dresses, which were the same color as mine.  There was no way things could be this easy.  I emailed the seller...and never heard back.

But that seller had named the company that made the napkins, so I went to their website and ordered samples that might match.

Amazingly, one of the samples was almost a perfect match.  I was a little shocked.  I didn't think finding these would be so easy.

I've been on the verge of hitting the "confirm" button on an order from the linen website that's carrying these quite a few times.  On one hand, I was convinced that people didn't notice little details like napkins in your colors.  On the other hand, Marc noticed those napkins at the wedding we went to last month.  This isn't a big purchase (probably about $100), but I'm wondering if it's worth it. 

What do you think?  Will adding a little color to the tables, beyond the flowers, look nice or do you think they're such a tiny element that they won't make much of an difference in the room where we'll be having our reception?


  1. I absolutely would infuse the table with some color but my weird mind would contrast it in some way. Maybe another color you like, alternated with the exact match or a significantly paler tone. When I got married in 1992, we had matching linens (maroon) paired with rose and white that really wasn't anywhere else in the scheme.

  2. I vote to get the napkins.  We did colored napkins at my wedding 8 years ago, and people did notice them.  It was a great pop of color on the table and made it more personalized that just your standard table setting.

  3.  That's such a great match.  I think that there are several factors.  1.  If you're having a beautiful menu card at each place setting, and it's printed on white or pale cardstock, then having the gorgeous rich tone of the napkin behind it would really make things look snazzy.

    2.  I can't remember what flowers you are doing but I'm starting to feel that if the flowers a smaller scale or low key, then colorful napkins can help take the table to the next level, decor wise.

    3.  I've been writing notes to myself about how certain details that seem huge to me (the bride) are probably never going to be remembered by others.  So yes, you would probably be a-ok if you didn't do it. 

    4.  $100?  That's pretty low to add a nice dose of color to every table.

    Hm. I think if it were me I'd do it.

  4. Marc will notice !

  5. I would only if you have color in the flower arrangements. I think it would be an awkward pop of color if everything else is neutral. Both would/are going to be gorgeous :) can't wait!

  6. I like the colored napkins.  When my son and daughter-in-law were married last summer (ceremony outside, reception inside), they used white tablecloths, burlap runners edged in navy, and navy blue napkins that matched the bridesmaids' dresses (they were a convertible style, so everyone had the same dress but wore it differently).  It was very pretty!!! 
    I really miss all of the excitement of the wedding preparations so I have really enjoyed hearing about your plans.  Don't stop posting!!!! 
    oh, and they bought all of their linens online...

  7. I agree with Amandagray...
    is there color elsewhere on the table?

  8. When we did color napkins at our wedding I thought my mom and I would be the only ones to notice. I can't tell you how many people mentioned them. It added a lot to the table and showed that we thought things through, even to the last detail.

  9. Get the napkins because you will regret it.  I dont regret anything I did for my wedding only things I didn't do.  And nobody else will notice but when you look at your pictures you will say damn I should have ......... and we had colored napkins as well as chocolate cake and raspberry sherbet that matched our chocolate and pink color scheme

  10. Sometimes I think it's the smallest details that take a wedding from being just like every other wedding to making it your own. I think the pop of color that it would add to the tables would be beautiful, and there's no questioning how well they match the bridesmaid dresses.


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